Scarlett (O'Hara) Butler: "Oh, Ashley, when will you stop seeing both sides of questions?" she asked. But she did not speak impatiently as she once would have done. "No one ever gets anywhere seeing both sides."
Ashley Wilkes: "That's true but-- Scarlett, just where do you want to get? I've often wondered. You see, I never wanted to get anywhere at all. I've only wanted to be myself."
My thoughts: Margaret Mitchell's fictional character Scarlett, the main character of Gone with the Wind, can be admired for her feisty spirit, her determination and her grit. Like Scarlett, there are a lot of bloggers in the autism community out there who are feisty. They aren't afraid to take a side on the vaccine issue, or another controversial topic that exists withing the world of autism. They've chosen their side and it would take quite the suavy tongue or pen to persuade them to change their views.
On the other side there are bloggers a bit like Ashley Wilkes; dreamers like me who just want to be themselves and maybe ignore the larger concerns. In the early days of my blog I did touch on the vaccine issue some, but turned away from the topic out of dismay and disgust of the controversy that existed.
Unlike Ashely, however, I did choose a direction, a positive one. I wished to stay away from most negative topics. I started to write about family life and offer up book reviews and tips about handling meltdowns, etc.
Generally I consider myself open minded regarding most of the controversial issues, but do at times get riled up when I feel like someone is trying to cram their personal belief down my throat. If I try to see things from another person's point of view, I expect the other person to try to see things from my own perspective. As you may well know, it doesn't always work that way and it can be frustrating when a person is so stuck on their own views that they just don't try to listen.
Scarlett saw seeing both sides of a story or issue as a futile endeavor. I, however, see it as potentially helpful. It's good to know where someone is coming from as the knowledge can help one be more diplomatic during disputes. It's also good to know both sides of an issue in order to make an educated decision about what side of an issue to take.
I find that it is definitely easier to see both sides of an issue than to try to change the mind of someone who already firmly believes something. So maybe that's why I haven't written about the da*m vaccine issue recently. Unlike Scarlett I see the futility in taking a side. Most people reading about vaccines already know the issue pretty well, so what I'd have to offer would not be that new to them. I imagine the only thing that would happen is that people who agreed with me would offer positive comments while those who didn't would offer up negative ones.
Of course, seeing the other side of things as I tend to do, it could be interesting to return to the topic of vaccines. It has been quiet around at this blog lately. I wondering about the possibility of potential readers prefering to hang around a opinionated Scarlett rather than a feminine version of Ashley Wilkes. I do have a little bit of Scarlett buried in me way down deep. Should I bring her to the surface? Would it make this blog more interesting? What do you think?