Monday, October 11, 2010

Super Mom is Overwhelmed

It's been a while since this "super mom" has blogged. Mostly, it's because she has been completely overwhelmed. In other words, she's feeling less than super right now. I think all parents, especially parents of children with disabilities, get to the point when it's hard to keep up with everything. This super mom has been buried in an array of paper work for various doctors we're seeing, going to the resulting appointments, while also going to a series of meetings at my son's school because his current educational set up is not working for him.

She's been doing all of this because things have been more than a bit rocky around here. A common saying is that actions speak louder than words. To this super mom's utter dismay, her super boy has not been behaving in a super manner at school. The culprit is most likely anxiety which is probably stemming from a entrance into adolescence (my son is 12), a change of location from Michigan to Washington, a change of schools, and a saddening realization that he's different from other students.

Fortunately we have found a bevy of super sidekicks to help us in this very difficult situation. Besides the team at my son's school, these professionals include a therapist (whom my son really likes), a psychiatrist (who is excellent), a few moms (whose years of experience working with their own children and advocating for others can qualify them as professionals in my opinion), a neurologist (who'll we'll see in December), and even an allergist to determine whether certain foods are agitating his system. At the advice of the psychiatrist, we'll probably also add a behaviorist and some medication to our arsenal that we are assembling in order to help Super Boy cope with the world better.

I found a article on autism and anxiety that I thought hit the mark pretty well. I liked how it mentioned that the best tools that parents can sue to help a child cope with a change are preparation and anticipation. The article also mentioned medications. Medication might not be for or endorsed by everyone, but I know of some families who have benefited from prescriptions prescribed by psychiatrists.

My son has a single kidney so I've been avoiding considering medication up to this point due to concerns for his health. However, we're at the point where we need to try medication. It's called crisis mode. We're surviving so far, but are ready for things to get better. In the meantime, I'll try to blog when I can. Don't give up on the super mom yet. She still has a lot more to say and more posts will surely be coming in the future.

4 comments:

Autism Mom said...

Super Mom, I truly feel you overwhelming pain. I too am going through a difficult stage and quiet lost as to where or who exactly to turn to, due to the fact that he is no longer a little boy, but a grown man that is much like a little boy.

Thanks for sharing, you are indeed a Super Mom.

Mimi said...

Dear Supermom,

I send my love to you and your family!
The onset of adolescence is a crisis for our families. My prayers are with you.

Ms. Marie

Diversity said...

You will get there because you are Super Mum!
Am glad to hear you have some sidekicks for support.

dotcomkari said...

I am so sorry you feel overwhelmed. I too know what it is like. I pray things slow down for you and work themselves out soon.